Please?

I really just need some reassurance that everything will be ok. That after chaos in life there truly is a blessing. That Newton was right when he said for everything there is an equal and opposite reaction. That there truly is a light at the end of a dark sporadically twisted tunnel. That the light will be blinding in comparison to the dark endured for years.
I need reassurance that everyone has a tunnel like this. That everyone has that one hurdle in their life that no matter how prepared they THINK they are, they continue to stumble over. And when they take a break, practice, and come back to the hurdle, the still get their back foot caught on the pole. The same hurdle that requires months, maybe years, of hard training. Of getting not only their body ready physically, but emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. Finally when the day comes, the hurdle may be small to spectators, but the true witness, the person themselves, compares their victory with the great victories in time.
I need reassurance that the trial period is the same for everyone in the measurement of tears and pain.
I need reassurance that this is normal. I need reassurance. I just need it.

Quicksand

My whole life I've felt like I've had to mature before others;
Now I feel as if they're not only catching up, but passing by.

Imagine human lifespans could be measured by geographical soil.

As we grow mentally we are running on dirt.

At phases in life where it is most crucial, we hit traps of quicksand.

Personally I always felt like I jumped over my last trap, running into a mature state.

I watched as other trudged through the thick mess behind me,

only hoping that they wouldn't be sucked in; stuck forever.

I've stopped looking back at them though.

They're now catching up, and there is no need to risk the whiplash.

Some of my dearest friends,

those who I felt ran closest to me,

those who I waited for,

are now passing me by.

I waited for their steady pace to become parallel with mine.

Instead they increased past my own acceleration.

Now I have no need to look back because the very people I worried about falling in

are ahead of me, and won't look back.

Friendzone

I posted my rant on Facebook with pure emotion. Here is my more calmed down version:

Boys. I have recently heard a lot of complaining about "The Friendzone". To some of you this is your version of hell on earth. To some of you this is the most crushing thing you've ever heard. Here's my advice to you. Tell her you like her.

First let's start off with why you're in the friendzone. You have not told her you like her, have you? Most likely you're answer will be no. This is your problem right there. Just like you complain about not being able to read girl's real motives, we can't read yours either. I understand you're scared of telling her because you're scared she will say, "Sorry Derp. We're just friends. I want it to stay that way", and this is a valid fear.

I'm not ruling out this option, but I can speak for most girls when I say that this will not happen. We've seen to many chick flicks. We know the drill. While we're crushing on Hottie McHotpants, our friend back here is the one who's listening to us and cares about us. I can name three chick flicks off the top of my head where this happens (Made of Honor, He's Just Not That Into You, Princess Diaries). We want that guy. We just want a GENUINE guy who wants to listen to our problems and will be honest. (oh and cuddling! We like that too)

This is where it gets good for you. I've just given you the secret formula to winning the girl.

First: BE GENUINE! Don't fake liking her for some odd reason. Just be the real you so the girl knows what she's getting in to. This is much healthier.

Second: LISTEN TO US!. If you really don't want to listen right now, then tell us. If the games on, tell us. **Warning! We will get upset** but we'd much rather you tell us you're not going to give us your full undivided attention until later, than fake it and not listen to us.

Third: JUST BE HONEST! If you like us, we'd much rather you tell us, than us guess if you do. (Girls this goes for you as well) We'll be honest back. If we say no. It's not going to work. You can be friends, but you can't complain. It's just not going to work. You will find another girl. This is not the end of the world.

So please, for the love of all that is good in the world, kill this viral phrase called "The Friendzone". It doesn't exist. What you're talking about is relationship limbo. No one knows what you are, but most likely it'll work out.