"Be the Change you wish to see in the world" -Gandhi "I will be a Hummingbird, I will do the best that I can." -Wangari Maathai "Where stereotypes begin with a grain of truth, cliches begin with a boulder" - George Watsky "And she's gonna learn, that this life will hit you - hard - in the face - wait for you to get back up just so it can kick you in the stomach, but getting the wind knocked out of you is the only way to remind your lungs, how much they like the taste of air." - Sarah Kay "Do not fear what has blown up. If you must, fear the unexploded." -Suheir Hammad


I posted my rant on Facebook with pure emotion. Here is my more calmed down version:

Boys. I have recently heard a lot of complaining about "The Friendzone". To some of you this is your version of hell on earth. To some of you this is the most crushing thing you've ever heard. Here's my advice to you. Tell her you like her.

First let's start off with why you're in the friendzone. You have not told her you like her, have you? Most likely you're answer will be no. This is your problem right there. Just like you complain about not being able to read girl's real motives, we can't read yours either. I understand you're scared of telling her because you're scared she will say, "Sorry Derp. We're just friends. I want it to stay that way", and this is a valid fear.
I'm not ruling out this option, but I can speak for most girls when I say that this will not happen. We've seen to many chick flicks. We know the drill. While we're crushing on Hottie McHotpants, our friend back here is the one who's listening to us and cares about us. I can name three chick flicks off the top of my head where this happens (Made of Honor, He's Just Not That Into You, Princess Diaries). We want that guy. We just want a GENUINE guy who wants to listen to our problems and will be honest. (oh and cuddling! We like that too)

This is where it gets good for you. I've just given you the secret formula to winning the girl.
First: BE GENUINE! Don't fake liking her for some odd reason. Just be the real you so the girl knows what she's getting in to. This is much healthier.
Second: LISTEN TO US!. If you really don't want to listen right now, then tell us. If the games on, tell us. **Warning! We will get upset** but we'd much rather you tell us you're not going to give us your full undivided attention until later, than fake it and not listen to us.
Third: JUST BE HONEST! If you like us, we'd much rather you tell us, than us guess if you do. (Girls this goes for you as well) We'll be honest back. If we say no. It's not going to work. You can be friends, but you can't complain. It's just not going to work. You will find another girl. This is not the end of the world.

So please, for the love of all that is good in the world, kill this viral phrase called "The Friendzone". It doesn't exist. What you're talking about is relationship limbo. No one knows what you are, but most likely it'll work out.