"Be the Change you wish to see in the world" -Gandhi "I will be a Hummingbird, I will do the best that I can." -Wangari Maathai "Where stereotypes begin with a grain of truth, cliches begin with a boulder" - George Watsky "And she's gonna learn, that this life will hit you - hard - in the face - wait for you to get back up just so it can kick you in the stomach, but getting the wind knocked out of you is the only way to remind your lungs, how much they like the taste of air." - Sarah Kay "Do not fear what has blown up. If you must, fear the unexploded." -Suheir Hammad

Unwanted Adaptation

Who here thinks they can escape change? Well you're wrong, because time erodes your life away, and with it you are no longer the same person. So change is inevitable of course. But how come we don't always see it that way? If we have a friend who has changed, we blame them for changing, not for their actions, their words, or their attitudes. With change you still have choice, so these things seem to be the right ones to blame, not the inevitable change. So when your best friend starts wearing something different, don't blame them for changing. They need change to survive. Adapting is probably a better word. Have you ever been on the other side of the glass? You've changed and people blame you for it? They shouldn't blame your change. You needed it to survive either socially or even physically. Yet you get called a poser? Why is that? In my personal opinion it's not right. You're not trying to pose as someone else. Even trying to pose as someone else is being who you are, because they're not posing. Everyone is different. So people stop saying they're fake. Their decisions may be unwanted. Their attitudes may be unnecessary. Their actions may be unacceptable. But there's no one else to blame other than the person themselves, and their choices. They choice to do that. Them changing may be an effect. But don't say, "Oh my gosh, she's/he's such a poser!" Because they're not. They're adapting. Whether or not you like it. And guess what, you have no control over them. They have every right to do as they please. Their mission in life should not be to please you. But to please themselves. So why call them fake or a poser? Why even worry about what they do. Until they're not happy don't worry if they change. If you lose a friend. do what they did. Adapt and find a new friend. It's actually very simple. They did it. Why can't you?


P.S. 50th blog!